By curious, to you mean cowardice?
I don’t buy into the idea that someone can be bi-curious or questioning about their sexuality. I sympathize with the plight of someone struggling to *accept* their sexuality, but come one. You either are or aren’t turned on by men, women, or both to varying degrees. For guys, it’s even more clear cut: you either do or don’t get a hard on.
What I do believe, though, is that people are afraid of the political- and familial implications of saying they’re gay or bi. As if some royal gong is sounded from the heavens for all to hear, and all eyes are turned on them in judgment. In fact, the first step in coming out is not worrying about what others may think. It’s in realizing that your own happiness comes first, not substantiating and supporting the fears of others.
There was this whole cult of closetedness at my college. I never caught on to it at the time, so blissfully stymied was I by the nirvana of political correctness UC so strives to culminate. But I could not then and would not now find it attractive to be with someone who hadn’t fully accepted his sexuality, and simply considered its stigma second nature and its celebration of primary importance.
